The Relationship Series: Self-awareness of Wounds
Ever wondered why some relationships flourish while others falter?
It all boils down to awareness.
Recognizing that we all carry relational wounds and protective strategies is crucial.
These wounds, whether from past relationships, childhood experiences, or other sources, can impact how we interact with our partners. Acknowledging these wounds is the first step towards healing and fostering healthier connections.
We all develop protective strategies to shield ourselves from past hurt. Whether it's building emotional walls, avoiding vulnerability, or seeking validation in unhealthy ways, these strategies can inadvertently hinder intimacy.
Understanding our own and our partner's protective mechanisms allows us to create a safe space for vulnerability and authentic connection.
As a result of our old wounds we also experience triggers from time to time.
Certain words, actions, or situations can evoke strong emotional reactions rooted in our past experiences.
Being mindful of our triggers and communicating them with our partners fosters empathy and helps prevent unnecessary conflicts.
It’s important to remember that growth is possible but it’s incremental. Personal growth is a continuous journey, marked by small victories and setbacks alike.
It’s an ongoing journey with no destination. There's no finish line.
It's about committing to self-improvement and evolving together as individuals and as a couple.
If you want good relationships but you’re not sure how you’re doing in the area of self-awareness of wounds ask yourself these questions*:
Did you know everyone carries relational wounds?
Do you recognize that individuals develop protective strategies to prevent re-injury in similar ways?
Are you familiar with the idea that everyone experiences triggers from time to time?
Do you know that growth is possible and incremental?
Do you acknowledge that personal growth is an ongoing process with no definitive end?
If some of these questions make you feel like you could use some work around wounds and protective strategies, I’m here to help!
*The list of questions around wounds and protective strategies is taken from the Somatica® literature.